To talk or not to talk. That is the question.

So there i was, talking with a friend about doing more of the things we love- about family, about friends, about our current readings (we both love to read) when we stumbled on the subjects of goals. The ensuing two hour conversation and the tingling elation spurred by deep currents of thought provided the impetuous for this blog, as it has been one of my goals for some time now.

So what did we talk about that was so enlightening? Nothing. Yet, everything. I gained an acute awareness of the power of talk.

This is what I learned: People talk for many reasons. And people don't talk for just as many reasons.

Why talk?

People talk to extend themselves to another, to accept responsibility for the growth of the relationship, and to share ideas or feelings with someone else. Good, rich conversation is always good. Gab, chat, small talk, whatever you like to call it is also always good. Our creative juices flow when we talk. That is the juice of life that helps us become better parents, friends, business associates and ultimately just better people.

Why not talk?

People don't talk for a variety of reasons. One person may be shy. Another may not know what to say in a particular situation such as the death of a relative. The timing may be off. A night owl may seldom talk in the morning. A friend reacting to stress may be temporarily mute. Non-talking can be used as a defense, as manipulation of another, or even as punishment. And last, but not least, talking can be a lot of work. But friendship is a lot of work as is anything worth having.

So there ends my first blog....EVER! Talk amongst yourselves now. Be sensitve, be enthusiastic and thanks for sharing.